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I think it is has been two or three Fridays that I have done this: started a 7QT and then just never finished it. It is just crazy to think about how many times I have done this. I will say to myself, ‘Nikita, you are going to finish this’ and then it never happens. Quite honestly I do not know why. Let us hope that I can be better at finishing entries, let alone 7QT.
As you all have probably noticed I am now a proud pet owner. Maggie our puppy hound mix as of right now is sleeping in her bed that is in the living room. (Next to me) While we are still dealing with her liking the whole idea that our hands, feet, and forearms are her play toys with her prickly teeth, Maggie is your average puppy. But, a few nights ago she scared me a bit, but in all honesty I think it was good it happened, it keeps me on my toes. And in the two weeks after we had adopted her she has grown a bit. (And barks and howls what a good hound )
For those military spouses out there who read my blog. Has it ever occurred to any of you that military vocabulary your military spouse uses at work becomes every apart of your own vocab? I am guilty, as I was writing this blog entry and speaking about Maggie I was going to write: as of right now sleeping on the first deck next to me. Deck?! Really, Nikita! But there are other times I will run off and be all, as I have dubbed it ‘Navy Technical’ in conversation or writing. My husband laughs at it sometimes when he hears me use a Navy Term.
Speaking about military and military spouses, I want to write something and quite honestly I think I may have written it before, so forgive me for repeating. It has been something on my mind since I went to COMPASS in NWS Charleston over four months ago and after the FRG meeting last night it has kind of helped validated more of how my thought process works.
I have heard many times through the course of my Navy wife life (which isn’t that long) that this part of training my husband is in sucks so much more than deployments. Why you might ask, well as spouses who I have heard this say it is because technically their sailors are “home” but they are gone at least most of the day and depending on what schedule they are on the Sailor is either sleeping or gone when you are awake. And it is a frustration for many of the spouses and I have heard it complained about so often it has kind of become a trend. (Not all the wives express or complain but the majority who I have met fit that category.) Yet, for me when my husband is gone those x amount of hours I am not fazed. I mean it sucks I would like to spend more time with him, but oh well is my attitude.
What makes my attitude so different from other spouses. I have learned for many of them (not all) their husbands during their times in the other part of training their husbands were coming home at a reasonable time. They were so used to having them home at a certain time that quite honestly they are just not use to the idea of their Sailors gone or they are not able to schedule things in like before.
While with me my husband he was working his tail off during the toughest part of that training, though he is smart he was struggling but pushing through and so I would not see him until almost 2200 at times. This was normal for me, and I was fine with it I knew he was doing his job and I knew that when he came home he would be tired, but I knew ‘dinner time’ (cause I would cook about an hour or two before he got home) was ‘our time’.
Yes, I do not have children yet and maybe that is why the transition from one training to the next has not been as difficult than to others, but the ones I hear complain the most are the ones who do not have children. We forget at times that we are lucky enough to see what little time we have with our spouses for there are some spouses who do not see their military spouses for months in-between. I say you have to be prepared for that and understand more of the position they are in, for I bet they wish they were home with their spouses and children than training or on deployment.
This is why “Dinner Time” is that time to be with him, of course I think my husband is a special case because though tired he wants to talk and see how my day was, while other Sailors are not that way. You know spouses need to find that one thing that you know no matter what can be that time to talk, I mean heck I know that some it is video games, while they playing 2-person game or something they talk.
I guess in the long run I am tired of hearing the complaints, but then again I am glad they are honest and open to speaking their complaints. (If that doesn’t makes sense, sorry and sorry for the longest take I have ever written.)
Cooler temperature, YES! One of the positive notes of living in Upstate New York is it gets cooler a lot earlier. For a woman who gets sick with the heat, this is a major plus. While my husband just stares at me and thinks I am needing my head examined; I cannot wait to see the leaves change colors and be wearing hoodies and the like soon!
Recently, I got to hear from someone who I have no memory of. Thanks to a third cousin I was able to talk to my great-aunt Rose Marie aka Butch (yes, weird nickname, but whatever). She is my grandmother Jackie’s half-sister, but also the last of Grandma siblings that are alive. Butch lives in California, I was nervous to call and I thank my third cousin to calling her first for me. (I wanted to make sure it was alright for me to call her, or if she even wanted to hear from me.) When hearing her voice for the first time I wanted to cry, I could hear a familiarity to my grandma’s voice. (Their laughs are almost identical) Hopefully, this relationship will blossom and in the end I can learn more about my grandma, but her side of the family more.
This is the end of the 7QT for this week. I hope it was not too long. Have a good weekend!